How To Stay Friends With Your Bridesmaids
Asking a friend to be your bridesmaid is a big responsibility. For you and for her.
For her, it means taking on part of the burden of making sure that your wedding works out exactly as you have planned it. Organizing the young flower girls. Making sure you look your most beautiful at the ceremony (arranging veils and trains etc.) Providing a shoulder to cry on/hand to hold when the stress gets to you. Helping with the RSVPs, choosing the venue, the cake … the list goes on.
Your Best Friend Might Not Make Your Best Bridesmaid
And what’s your responsibility? Well, firstly you need to make sure that you’re choosing the right person to be your bridesmaid. (And that might not be your best friend either.) You need to have an individual by your side who is reliable, trustworthy, organized, reasonably and available. Your childhood friend who now lives 3000 miles away might be the person you want, but you really need to have somebody with you who can be physically there quite a lot of the time. Your other Uni friend might be great fun but a bit scatterbrained and you really don’t want to worry about what she’s forgotten or likely to forget.
And in return – what can you do?
We’ve all been at weddings where the bridesmaid has been forced into wearing a dress that really didn’t suit her. Maybe she was tall and lanky and had to wear a strapless dress that she just didn’t have the curves for. Or maybe she was voluptuous and had to face up to frills that did nothing to accentuate her good points but emphasized the not-so-good.
We think one of the greatest thank-you’s you can pay your chief bridesmaid is allowing her to choose her own bridesmaid dress.